A shopaholic for toys...

Hai... yesterday had a serious chat with hubby. He was not happy that I spend a lot on toys for Reese. He pointed out that a lot of them were unnecessary which I have to agree to a certain extend but he was also guilty of impulsive buying of toys at times too!

Ever since we got Reese, 80% of our shopping will go to his toys. I am not much of a shopper myself but when it comes to Reese, I will walk for hours to find toys, clothes or anything that I think Reese might need.

Almost each week I will buy a toy for Reese and telling myself... it's something cheap so no big deal. Then yesterday hubby reminded me when I add all the small purchases up...it's not cheap.. haha... it's true...I  knew but just denying it. 

I enjoyed it sooo much when Reese plays with his new toys... but rationally.. does he really need that many toys to play with? Does he want it? probably not.

The thing was, the people who wanted the toys were us. We had a fantasy of what pleasure these toys would give. We had dreams of providing them with something wonderful. And how often is that true about the toys we give our kids? How often is that we want to give them, more than the children themselves really want the toys?

And if we're honest about our motivations for giving our children toys, I think we'll find that this is what we're seeking - the child inside us who loved a particular toy or toys and felt powerfully about them. We give our kids toys because we want them to have that magical and imaginary space in their lives with a toy that feels real to them. So we give and give and hope that the next one will be the one. But the reality is that it is more likely that we will create magical experiences for our children  if they have fewer toys rather than more. If they have more incentive to imagine and thus don't have a toy to fill every imaginary gap. 

mmmm.... logical? :)

I promised hubby that I won't buy any toys for Reese the next 5 months. Will have to find alternative to that....hahaha