Friday, April 18, 2008

What will Reese be like when he grows up...

A few months back while lining up(a few hours under light drizzle) with Daddy Reese to get into the stadium for a concert(it was Muse if you must know).... we started observing the people around us and little conversations people were having..

What we saw:
1. Teenagers and college kids were mingling freely with each other, smoking, dancing, trying to get attention... and many with bfs and gfs... oh..also worth a mention..their outrages fashion sense!

2. Behind us were two ladies (in their late 40s) with their children (12 to 14 years old).. sweating away and talking with people around them.

3. A couple in front of us. Probably also in their 40s waiting patiently with their very very tall son ( I suspected the child was autistic).

4. Then there are the other people around our age (30s).

I told Daddy Reese that I don't want Reese to end up being like those naughty kids... dressing in Gothic style or punk... I wonder what parents of these kids do to control them. It's scary to watch these kids doing things that were not appropriate..

Then we begin to listen to what the two aunties behind us were talking about. They were very amused with the whole situation... two aunties totally out of place, not a clue about the performers, they were complaining about the rain, shaking their heads while amused and probably proud that they were 'cool' mummies! :)

Towards the last hour of waiting... I started to pay attention to this couple in front of me. The father was busy finding a comfortable spot on the ground for his son to rest... making sure his son's rain coat was covering all the possible parts of his body, patting his son's back and telling him that they will be in the stadium soon while the mother was busy fanning her son with some pieces of paper. Both were so patient and you can see the amount of love they have for their son. By the way... it was a rock concert and I can tell you.. these parents here were totally out of place!

I asked Daddy Reese, so... you think when you are in your 40s or 50s... you will accompany your son to a rock concert? Are you able to be the 'cool' dad? He looked at me for a while....smiles and said...of course... why not? I wonder whether I can do the same... hahaha...

We really ought to be careful with our children's upbringing..but then again.. we as parents can only do so much. Once they start mixing with the outside world... it's all up to them to decide what's right and what's wrong. Like moomykin said.. we can only pray hard!!

2 comments:

Moomykin said...

Honestly I don't dare to say too much how I want them to dress or not, or what kind of friends to hang out with, in terms of appearance... There's just no guarantee, and can't judge a book by the cover.

I mean character and kindness comes in all kinds of guises and found in unexpected places. We have our principles and expectations, of course. I am not all for being a cool mum that all goes, nor be a stick in the mud, but... let's wait till we come to the bridge... before we worry how to cross it.

p/s- At one time older generations shun girls with short hair and labels them rebel. We now also react the same to certain "fashion" but it may not be as bad. Very grey areas.

Ann said...

Take it one day at a time....sometimes one hour at a time.

A thought came to me.....sometimes the less we do with our kid, and the more we do with our hubby, the better they will become....

Live by example perhaps...