Few weeks back at my Growth group, one of our church elder said something very interesting. He has 3 children, eldest in college and youngest is 12 years old. He said that his priority now has shifted to his wife. His number 1 priority is his wife. His children? well... he said..eventually they will go and have their own life and what's left will be just him and his wife!! So... should invest more on his wife! hahaha....
Come to think of it, it's true... no matter how much you invest in your children...they will eventually leave you and start a life of their own. Can you let go? After years of nurturing and loving and everything under the sun...can you let go?
** I know...my son is only 18 months.. hehe...
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There are different phases in our lives.
Yesterday at the Sunday School Teachers' prayer meeting we were talking to a young couple, both helpers at SS, about to get married. Then there's the coordinator, her kids are 12 and 8, an "uncle" whose kids are 16 and the other in Uni, and me.
I told the young couple, they are like just about to start on the Monopoly game. "Uncle gas passed "GO" a few round, The coordinator finishing one round and me in "JAIL". Hahahaha...
But it's true. At the end of the day you've gotta remember that you'll be growing old with your hubby, so must still invest in that relationship now. :)
it will be heartbreaking if ive to stay far from my children next tiem :-( but we all hv to face the facts!
Dear Kathie,
I like the way you put it...a monopoly game...and you are in Jail...so true..ahhaha...
Yes, we must invest in our relationship now so that it will grow stronger and I want to see myself during old age holding hands with my hubby and watch movies among the young!!
Dear June,
Yeah...what choice have we? :) just pray and hope that we can still be close to our children when they all grow up!
I reckon I am prepping myself even now. If we have this mind set from the start, I think we will not have empty silences in the home when our kids go off to college. It is healthier and easier on the children to know that mummy and dadddy love them but can't wait to spend time together as well....
And if nothing else works, at least you have all us blogger friends who will be in the same boat since our kids are more or less the same ages!
Ann,
Wah... prepare from now ah? hard for me at this point..but good thinking... yeah...got other mummies to share the sorrows if all else fail..hahaha...
Biblically, the most important relationship that must be preserved and maintained with due diligence is between a husband and a wife. Though we love our kids and they mean the world to us, we should never allow them to take the place of affection we have for the special partners we have vowed our lives to.
Once kids realize that they are priority number 1 instead of the other parent (father or mother) that quite is a recipe for discord in the home. Let us be aware that it's all to easy to get caught up with the kids that the husband or wife is neglected. Thus we as parents should constantly guard the intimacy and preciousness of this sacred bond of marriage while still being the loving responsible parents God wants us to be.
Dear Adrian,
It's not easy to follow exactly...and I must admit... with a child in the picture...our relationship was affected but things started to improve as Reese grows older... and I guess both of us have to put in the effort to work on the relationship...
Hey, how about dinner at my place one of these Saturdays?
Looking at darren's attitude, I think I'd better learn how to let go. DOn't think he'll stick to us when he has grown up..hehehe...
Hi Florence,
Thanks for the invite. Sure sounds like good idea. We'll try to set it up and to make time on one of the weekends ahead.
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