Sunday, April 12, 2009

Going nuts!!!!

Reese is getting impossible. Two days in a row throwing his super tantrum. Screaming, shouting, crying, kicking, jumping, hitting and throwing things. Today was really the peak until daddy had to discipline him in a very stern manner. He was locked in the room, favourite toys taken away and books as well. He cried over 30 minutes non stop from my mother's place to home and we just simply ignored him. So much so that at the end for the first time he actually said sorry to both of us. He cried and kicked and screamed so hard that after we came back not too long later he felt asleep. In the afternoon he was fine until dinner time it started again. Same treatment for him. Locked in the room without his toys and books. Daddy was very stern. I think it was a good thing. I am a little too soft. Eventhough I was not in total agreement with hubby's way but I am glad he is disciplining him. Now I just walk away when hubby disciplines him. I hope this tantrum throwing thing will end soon. It's very very difficult to bear!

Smacking his hands, scolding and shouting at Reese are becoming common. What next? I really don't want to use a cane to discipline Reese. Gosh.... getting so tough now..... Reese has always been a really easy child to take care. Rarely cries when he was a baby and never really throw tantrum. Now all has changed a few months ago. It's getting worse. We just cannot afford to give in any more. We don't want a spoilt child.

I am trying to be considerate and reason with Reese but at times it simply won't work. Books will tell you to be patient and bla...bla...bla... we tried but not working. Every child is different and we as parents are doing our best to make sure we are fair to him and at the same time discipline him. He is no longer a baby. He is very manupulative too. Ah... getting tougher being a parent.... what's next I wonder...

4 comments:

Linda said...

Don't be upset... it's part of the growing up... the "tantrums" came with the package.... :)
with my girl, i use the counting 1 to 10 method, or i threaten to leave her and went outside.
Last time... the crying continue on till night time.. even during her sleep... which was really upsetting...

Leona said...

All I can say from one parent who has a toddler to another is...
it is a phase and it will pass. Ryan had those terrible tantrums when he was around Reese's age. As he approached 3 yo, the tantrums were less and he listened more to our threats. But the manipulative ways have increased.

Nina @ BabyBoon said...

i totally agree. u can read all the books in the world but when it comes to dealing with your kid, u gotta follow what's best suited for your kid. sigh. it's definitely no easy feat. at the moment we're having a good spell after practicing the winding-down technique (before proceeding to a different scenario / place / whatever), but we still get screaming-tantrum spells so we're currently trying out the put-him-in-a-safe-spot-to-throw-tantrum-then-ignore-him technique. so far so good but who knows what'll come next..

hang in there yeah?

A gift from God said...

Linda,

I know it's part of growing up but I am only humanlah... :)

Leona,

I am desperately waiting for it to pass!

BabyBooned,

We are in the same boat at the moment...and so is Mummy Darren... hehe.. me hanging like a monkey about to lose grip!